Happy Anniversary....

happy anniversary, specially to me....
im smiling widely, cant you see??
i have just received the best present ever....
probably one that ill remember forever....

dont be fooled by these little tears....
they are not for pain, or even for fears....
they fell freely, i dont know why....
but this little present made me cry....

all three years, and the times we shared....
all summed up in here, nothing is spared....
the meaning of this emotionally, i finally know....
just surprised in the way you choose to show....

you couldnt have chosen a better time....
to show me what is and what isnt mine....
as i read what you wrote, tears fell down....
you have now given me a new title and a crown....

i know you think that this is nothing big....
that is why the past, you continuously dig....
but this is about the current and how you feel....
till this is the choice you thought is ideal....

by receiving this, i dont know what to think....
suddenly everything changed, with just one blink....
im wondering it this is really what you mean....
for your effort and determination i have not seen....

you may think this is not such a big of a deal....
if so, you have over-looked the way that i feel....
but ill try to be what you have appointed me to be....
and its a happy anniversary specially for me

Its Finally Here....

the day much awaited is finally here....
the excitement build up instigates a tear....
never thought it could feel this near....
im jumping with joy, oh dear!! oh dear!!

four months passed with the blink of an eye....
suddenly it feels so fast, i dont know why....
its amazing how fast sometimes time can fly....
it is finally the day we get to say goodbye....

experience gained is something to remember....
probably an experience that will be kept forever....
be it a great success or even maybe a failure....
we have definately learnt the art to be bolder....

though life in university wasnt fully bliss....
it definately was not as lifeless as this....
the memories and times we cannot dismiss....
and not forgetting the friends we truely miss....

four months of separation we have been through....
we had to experience our working life debut....
all the messengers has been a friend ever so true....
for months it was the bestest friend that we knew....

but the time has come when we should cheer....
as the end and a new beginning as well is here....
though closer to graduation is something we fear....
let us celebrate for now, anyone up for a beer???

Difference between Focusing on Problems and Focusing on Solutions....

Case 1

When NASA began the launch of astronauts into space, they found out that the pens wouldn’t work at zero gravity (ink won’t flow down to the writing surface). To solve this problem, it took them one decade and $12 million.
They developed a pen that worked at zero gravity, upside down, underwater, in practically any surface including crystal and in a temperature range from below freezing to over 300 degrees C.

And what did the Russians do…?? They used a pencil.

Case 2

One of the most memorable case studies on Japanese management was the case of the empty soapbox, which happened in one of Japan’s biggest cosmetics companies. The company received a complaint that a consumer had bought a soapbox that was empty. Immediately the authorities isolated the problem to the assembly! line, which transported all the packaged boxes of soap to the delivery department. For some reason, one soapbox went through the assembly line empty. Management asked its engineers to solve the problem. Post-haste, the engineers worked hard to devise an X-ray machine with high-resolution monitors manned by two people to watch all the soapboxes that passed through the line to make sure they were not empty. No doubt, they worked hard and they worked fast but they spent a whoopee amount to do so.

But when a rank-and-file employee in a small company was posed with the same problem, he did not get into complications of X-rays, etc., but instead came out with another solution. He bought a strong industrial electric fan and pointed it at the assembly line. He switched the fan on, and as each soapbox passed the fan, it simply blew the empty boxes out of the line.

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Moral: Always look for simple solutions. Devise the simplest possible solution that solves the problems. Always focus on solutions & not on problems. So the end of the day the thing that really matters is HOW ONE LOOK INTO THE PROBLEM.

Butterfly....

you flew into my home....
gently making your way through....
looking graceful even as you roam....
i couldnt help but admire you....

your presence around was so silent....
but yet so refreshing and colorful....
you made all my worries feel absent....
you drew me into your peace capsule....

looking at you so calm and free....
humble as can be with your beauty....
nothing seems to be of a worry....
and seeing you made others around happy....

being here with me for no reason today....
without no commitments neither intentions....
just being my company, you made my day....
looking at your carefree and graceful actions....

you seemed ignorant about your surroundings....
not bothered of the things or the people around you....
you dont care about what others would think....
as you go about and do what you want to do....

slowly, you came and sat beside me....
no disturbance, with full of grace....
it was as if, i needed you, you could see....
as you looked at me, with your beautiful face....

its funny how you was there for me....
when my own only seem to make me cry....
if only others see me in the light you see....
my love, my friend, my beautiful butterfly....

Anger Management....

ANGER....sucha a powerful word....and its effects are not any less powerful either....it is an emotion that explodes when someone frightens us, threatens us, betrays, obstructs, disregards us, or harms us in some way....it never brings us any good....in fact it does more harm....but yet, many of us still succumb to it even though we know what harms it can do....I personally try to hold back my anger at any cause....i dont like what it makes me turn into....dont have a liking for screaming at people as i dont like people screaming at me either....i dont think anyone has the right to scream at anyone at all for that matter of fact....but then, it does get my irritate meter up to the limit....

im only human after all....i do loose my temper at times....hehe....sad but true....but then i dont let go on those who made me angry....but instead on those who irritate me when im angry....i know its bad....but hey, what am i to do....just dont irritate me when im trying to let off some steam....give me my space and all will be fine in half an hour....but alas, some still would not get the point....and would still irritate me only to result in me showing my anger on them....

however, i wont say i have a temper problem....for it takes alot of shit to get my temper in action....hehe....but i have seen loads of individual with temper problems....and some with very bad temper problem....it is kind of sad how they just scream at others when the true fact is probably that they are just frustrated with themsleves....i witnessed such a situation a few days back....this person, a guy, was eating with his partner at a food joint....when suddenly he spilled his drink glass over the table and onto himself....what would he have done? want to take a wild guess? hehe....

yeah, you are right....he started screaming at his partner like it was her fault that he spilled the drink....she just sat quietly and looked at him while he screamed his lungs out at her in public....inappropriate?? you bet....but still things like this happens everyday....probably these angry people should attend anger management classes to control their mental problem with temper....and save the rest of us from having to deal with their anger and public humiliation....not forgetting the emotional hurt that comes with it....

i guess not many realise what effects they leave on people with their temper....not many are well educated on how they should respect others and their feelings....for if they were, i dont think we would have a problem here....there was this story that i once read that i felt described the effects of anger....and i think i would shared it with you all here....i dont have the actual story currently....but il rewrite it again in my own words with what i remember....hehe....

there was once a boy who had a very bad temper problem....he would get angry at anything and at anyone....his level of tolerance was very low and he always got angry at even the smallest things.....he would scream, shout, and even curse when he was angry....his actions wasnt liked by the people around him but there was nothing they could do or say because he wouldnt listen and he couldnt control his temper....any effort from them would only get his temper up....

so one day, the father of this boy gave him a big box wrapped up as a present....they boy was surprised as it was not his birthday or any other special occation to receive a present....his father asked him to open it and what he found inside was a bag of nails and along with it a hammer....the boy was a little puzzled and could not understand the significance of the present....noticing the boy's puzzled face.....the father said,

"my dear son....this is a gift from me to you....i have noticed that you have a problem with your temper and im hoping this gift will help you to learn how to control your temper....so everytime after this....the moment you feel angry....i want you to take these nails and the hammer and go to the back fence of the house....i want you to hammer a nail into that fence for each time you loose your temper....if the day ever comes, that you do not need to hammer any nails anymore into the fence....inform me of that day...."

the boy did not understand the motif of his father....but he nodded his head and agreed to his fathers request....so the next day, the boy lost his temper 60 times and nailed 60 nails into the fence....the wood of the fence was hard and driving the nails into it was a tiring job....however, to stick to his word with his father....he continued with it....as time passed the amount of nails he hammered into the fence got lesser by the day....he was learning to control his temper because he did not enjoy hammering the nails into the hard wood of the fence....day by day the nails got less....until finally, he did not have to hammer any nails into the wood again....he has managed to control his temper and deal with things calmly....excited with his achievement, he went to his father to inform him of his success in controlling his temper....

the father smiled when he was told of his sons achievements....he asked the boy to take him to the fence where all the nails were hammered into....upon reaching the place, the father looked at the fence and the amount of nails in it....the father now asked the boy to remove all the nails from the fence as he did not need them anymore....the son did not understand his fathers intentions again but he did as his father had asked him to....removing the nail wasnt much of a problem for him....the nails came out easily when he pulled them out....however, due to the number of nails....he took some time before he managed to pull out every nail he has hammered into the fence....upon completing his work....he called his father again to inform him....the father came and looked at the fence....he then said,

"look at the fence....does it look the same as before you nailed all those nails into it?? the nails is your temper and anger....the fence is the people you show your temper to....all this time, you have showed so much of your temper to the people....you have learnt to control your temper and manage to remove all the nails you have hammered from the people with your appology and effort to make up....however, as you can see....the nails may not be there anymore but the scars always will remain....the fence will never be the same again....it will be with the scars from the nails for the rest of its lifetime....and the same goes with the people as well....the might have forgien you and gotten over it....but the damage and hurt you have caused them will remain and live with them till the end of their lives....they would never be the same people that you have know before...."

the boy now understood what his father said and the reason of the gift....he might be a changed person but the effects of his past will remain with the people who were affected...and though he regretted his actions, there was no way for him to turn back time and make things better....

that story really did make me think....and i hope it got you all thinking as well....anger gets us to no where....it only makes people upset and bitter....and what you do or say in anger might not be your true intentions....but you would not be able to take it back and the effect from it will forever remain....so if you really have a temper problem, do seek help for it....find some way to keep your temper under control....it would help in making you a better person as well as keeping others around you happy....you also would not do or say something that you might regret later on for....

so the next time you feel angry and think you cant control your temper and feel like screaming....take a deep breath....tell the person involved you need some time to yourself....and walk away....take a long walk or listen to some music....if food helps then by all means, go and indulge yourself....hehe....get back to the matter only after you have cooled down and can think rationally....because screaming and breaking stuff wont get you anywhere.... instead it might cause you to do something you would live to regret....so peepz....take a chill pill and live life happy....anger and tension is just a waste of energy and feelings....it wont make things better....it will only make things worse....peace out

Only His....

there was a time, things used to be great....
beautiful memories we used to create....
i loved him more then he would ever know....
my mistake, i had a different way to show....

and yes, there will always be ups and downs....
but there was definately more smiles then frowns....
he cared for me, and that i could clearly see....
he brought me to where i always wanted to be....

his humor, his friendship, and his understanding....
his care, always being there, and his sweet loving....
were the few things that made me know he was true....
i knew i have found a lover and a bestfriend too....

but things started to change as times passed by....
i couldn't find him, no matter how hard i would try....
he went missing, vanished without leaving a sign....
as if he suddenly faded, washed away with time....

i begged, i pleaded, i cried, and i whined....
he didnt come back, instead he left you behind....
were you supposed to replace him in our love story??
were you suppose to mean as much as he meant to me??

you may look like him, but you dont know me the way he knew....
you sound and smell like him, doesnt mean with you i should make-do....
how could he be so selfish, and abandone me here all alone??
he thinks he has done me justice by leaving me behind his clone??

you came into my life, though you were never given an invite....
and shadowed over it, turning it dark when it was once bright....
you want to get the same status and love that he would receive....
but you do not have the power to give, all that he could give....

he made me happy even when times were sad....
he cheered me up, everytime when i was feeling bad....
but you, all that you ever do is throw a blame or a threat....
and make me the sole source for all of your life's regret....

no i do not love you, for i have only loved him....
no matter how hard you force me to or you scream....
havent you ever heard, that it takes two to tango??
so please bring him back, and would you please go??

no matter how alike the both of you may be....
the difference in between, i can clearly see....
you are not the man i loved and deeply miss....
you can never own me, for i am and will forever be....
Only His....

Happy Happy....

Yawn!! still early in the morning and i have just opened my eyes....not a 100% awake yet....sad sad....but its okie....its all in the game....hehe....well im currently very very very happy....why you ask??? well its because im going to be done with my training very soon....lets say its two weeks to go....exactly there....hehe....cant wait cant wait....missed campus life and also my friends around....im practically lifeless here for i dont have much friends in penang....most are at the HQ....which happens to be Kuala Lumpur....feels like years since i have seen you all....happy happy me....hehe....

impatiently waiting for the first week of october to meet up again....

training wasnt that bad....though my life-style is kind of lifeless....its the routine wake up, get ready, breakfast, work, lunch, work, home, tv, dinner, and finally sleep....and that routine is a cycle that continues the next day....i did learn quite a number of new stuff with the projects i was assigned to by the company....but all i can say is, working life is so not for me....didnt like it, dun like it. and probably never will like it as well....its just not my cup of tea....would rather study in campus or get married....hehe....i wish la....but sadly, i wouldnt want my degree to go to a waste....so atleast for sometime i will be working to collect some cash for myself....hope to find a job that will be in my interest range....something challenging that would require the creative use of the brain as well....that would be fun....again, that still remains a wish....

we will just have to wait and see the outcome in another years time or so....

oh yeah....i forgot to add....will be enjoying a five week holiday at home after this....until the start of the second semester....plan to catch up on my beauty sleep that i have been deprived for such a long long time....hehe....need all that extra sleep....also have some planning to go over to KL and spend some fun time with my sister to let loose a little....been in penang for a little too long....hehe....need to find the time to do as much thing as i can and enjoy myself as well since the next two semesters would be kind of busy....after all i will be tied up with my final year project and also assignments and exams for other subjects....being a final year student....the preasure does increase....knowing the fact that graduation is just around the corner and you would not want to screw up in any aspect that will cause regret later on....

aaaaahhh!! the preasure of the super super senior....hehe....

the thought of graduation is fun....but the thought of working is no fun....hehe....will sure miss the carefree life in university as well as the fun and flexibility of life....but i guess that is all part of the life cycle....cant be around with no responsibility for a long time right....and working life would help us all grow to become more mature, open minded, understanding, and most importantly....maybe even rich....hehe....now that is a fun thought....minus all the effort we are required to put into it before we can ever be rich....unless we are born with a silver spoon that is....hehe....

aaahhh!! graduation....a happy and a sad moment....rolled up into one....

its pretty amazing how life takes its turns....just as you are finally getting used to and comfortable with one phase of life....its time to shift over and start another phase of life all over again....the adjustments....the akwardness....the making-friends process all over again....hehe.... fun in a certain way....but irritating in every other way....but anyhow, im so so so soooo happy that im finishing off my training and joining back campus soon....though my campus life is left with only a few months....i plan to enjoy and make the full use of it while i can....because as they say....life in university only comes once....and im planning to enjoy that life to the fullest with the people around me before my time runs out....hehe....and finally....

YAHOO!!! training is nearly over....hehe....see ya peeps....thanks

p/s: sorry for the cheap publisity with the picture....hehe....just couldnt find a happy picture that i liked....hehe....*wink*

Lovely Essence?!?....

love, a lovely essence....
or is it just a total nuisance....
yes, it does give us so much pleasure....
but the pain always seems to be greater....

promises are forever made....
but they dont take too long to fade....
as soon as you think that you are happy....
something happens to make things all crappy....

little girls go out to find their dream "prince"....
comparing every guy with her impossible blueprints....
while the boys lookout for their perfect "princess"....
considering appearance more and intelligence less....

as soon as you think you have found your soulmate....
and your awaited love story, you start to create....
you realise that your soulmate doesn't feel for you....
and maybe he already has someone else in mind too....

even if your love story does start to bloom....
things will be perfect, you should not assume....
for broken glass and thorns will come your way....
and you will lose yourself, a little bit everyday....

to be in love, is definately a beautiful thing....
minus all the heartaches and also the crying....
and happy endings are only in fairytales....
for it omits all the sad and heartbreaking details....

so, is love truely a lovely essence??
or could it just be a total nuisance??
but after all, who am i to actually guide you....
just follow your heart, hopefully, it will tell you the right thing to do....

p/s: a special dedication to vani's blog title....hehe....hope you like it gal

Coffee Anyone???....

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed that as one problem was solved, a new one arose.


Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She then pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what do you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.

The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, Mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity -- boiling water -- but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter.

"When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity? Do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor of your life. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another level?

How do you handle adversity?

Are you changed by your surroundings,

or do you bring life and flavor, to them?

ARE YOU A CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?

You And Me....

you and me....
were the happiest we could be....
why couldnt you see....
that trust and compromise is the key....

our love shone bright....
and every other thing felt right....
so how did day turn to night....
and took all our happiness out of sight....

i had faith in you....
and in whatever that you do....
couldnt you have faith in me too....
after all the times we have been through....

you said i need to change my character....
for our love to become greater....
but the opposite happened for that matter....
you became worse, instead of better....

your appreciation got from bad to worse....
i cried so much, it formed rivers....
did i look like your nanny or nurse....
who didnt have, own feelings of hers....

you think too highly of yourself....
and too lowly of me, on my behalf....
in your eyes, i am like a dwaft....
with self-respect thats cut to half....

i tried so hard to make us grow....
did all i that can, tried all i that know....
for this was something i couldn't let go....
it was too precious for me to throw....

if only you tried to understand me....
for once - then maybe you will finally see....
i am whatever you want me to be....
your only need is to keep me happy....

we are losing it day by day....
no matter what we do and what we say....
if i were to go or i were to stay....
this decision, solely, in your hands lay....

The Secrets Of L.O.V.E....

The first secret: The Power Of Love.

Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help recognize him or her when you meet.

The second secret: The Power Of Respect.

You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself, "What do I respect about myself? " To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, "What do I respect about them?"

The third secret: The Power Of Giving.

If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of you can take.

The fourth secret: The Power Of Friendship.

To find true love you must first find a true friend. To love someone completely you must love them for who they are not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship

The fifth secret: The Power Of Touch.

Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.

The sixth secret: The Power Of Letting Go.

If you love something, let it be free. Even in a loving relationship, people need their space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances.Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions.

The seventh secret: The Power Of Communication.

To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know; that you love and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say, "I love you." Never let an opportunity pass to praise and acknowledge someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word ... it could be the last time you see them.

The eighth secret: The Power Of Commitment.

If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationship. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong, loving one.

The ninth secret: The Power Of Passion.

Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone. It comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. The essence of love and happiness are the same, all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

The tenth secret: The Power Of Trust.

You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Trust yourself, trust others and trust the world. It is the foundation for LOVE.

You Wasn't There For Me....

you wasn't there for me....
when i needed you today....
you wasn't there for me....
to listen to what i have to say....

you wasn't there for me....
when i needed someone to talk....
you wasn't there for me....
helping me through my sorrow walk....

you wasn't there for me....
when i needed a shoulder to cry on....
you wasn't there for me....
while my heart was brutally torn....

you wasn't there for me....
when i was feeling all alone....
you wasn't there for me....
while in my sufferings, i quietly moan....

you wasn't there for me....
to understand me and the things that i do....
you wasn't there for me....
you only expected me to understand you....

you wasn't there for me....
when i needed your love and support....
you wasn't there for me....
though you knew you were my only resort....

you wasn't there for me....
when i needed you the most....
you wasn't there for me....
even as i write this painful post....

i needed someone to confide in....
when i could not keep it all within....
when darkness was all that i could see....
you just wasn't there for me....
you wasn't there for me....

The Ring Finger....

**an interesting thing i found online....i dont know if it is actually the reason but it is kind of cool....hehe....try it for yourself and see**
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Why wedding ring should put on the fourth finger?
PLs follow the below step, really god make this a
miracle (this is from a Chinese excerpt)

1. Firstly, with both your palms, bend your center finger
and put them together back to back

2. Secondly, the rest all 4 fingers tips to tips like in a praying
pose but with your middle fingers bent inwards

3. Games begin, follow the below arrangement of
fingers but remember, only 1 pair can split at a time

4. Try to open your thumb, the thumb represent
parents, it can be open cause all human does go
thru sick and dead. Which is our parents will leave
us one day

5. Pls close up your thumb, then open your
second finger, the finger represent brothers and
sisters, they do have their own family which is too
they will leave us too

6. Now close up your second finger, open up your
little finger, this represent your children. Sooner or
later they too will leave us for they got they own
living to live

7. Never the less,close up your little figner, try to
open your fourth finger which we put our wedding
ring on, you will be surprise to find that it cannot be
open at all. Because it represent husband and
wife, this whole life you will be attach to each
other.


**Real love will stick together ever and forever**

Thumb represent parents
Second finger represent brothers & sisters
Center finger represent own self
Fourth finger represent your partner
Last finger represent your children