Misunderstood....

It appears to be so simple for some to judge others in the world we live in today....every one has his or her own say about how others should and shouldnt be....someone could have a clean sheet all his life....but due to one mistake made....it wont matter anymore....for the mistake will infact be more obvious to the public eye compared to all the good he has done once upon a time....what you were yesterday is forgotten....and what you are today is what matters....a strange but true way of life that has been adopted by this community....

this has resulted in many of us going around wearing masks instead of being who we actually are....who we are in the inside is burried deep inside and we show a stronger, different kind of front to the world....we are just to scared to show the real us....we fear of rejection, hurt, being taken advantage of, look down upon....thats some of us....then there is also the kind that pretend to be what they are not to win admiration from fellow peers....they try to be what they are not just to show how cool and sociable they are when in real life, they are nothing much than what i call kampung boys (p/s: that applies for gals too....but they would be kampung gals)....

i may look at someone today and have the thought, "oh, he is just stuck up"....my opinion on that would be because of the way this person carries himself....maybe he has a little trouble smiling at others....or maybe he is not too friendly as i would have expected normal people to be....but then again, do i really know him to judge so about him?? probably in his life, he has faced so many rejections by the people around him that he has lost hope in the society....thus, making him see no point in being friendly or smiling at people....what good would such a gesture do him....if looked at things from this angle....he is not stuck up....he is just trying to protect himself from the world....but that doesnt means this applies for everyone out there....some ARE jus plain stuck up....

today you might meet someone who cant seem to accept her mistakes....and that would irritate you so much that you would think of this girl as someone who thinks too highly of herself and cant seem to accept others point of views....that can be true till some point....but then again, perhaps she is just one of those people that has been stepped on all her life and she learnt that the only way she would get some respect around is to fight for what she thinks is right....the only problem could be that, probably she just dont know when she should stop fighting....this is due to fear of being stepped on again....she is just standing up for what she feels....for that is the only way she knows on how to make people listen and pay attention to her....that doesnt make her a bad person....she is just a victim of the society....

i know i have been in a situation where i have misunderstood someone....most of the misunderstandings i have done happens to be total opposite compared to the purpose of my blog today....i always misunderstand people as good people....worth while friends, understanding people, thrustworthy individuals....but then im always proven wrong at the end of the day as they all turn out the total opposite of what i assumed....sad but true....but then this is not one of those examples....i always had this thought of this person that this person is selfcentered and only thinks for the good of this person solely....i thought this person was an attention seeker....i thought this person couldnt care less about others....but it was when i knew the life story of this person, that was when i understood where this person was coming from....

lets call this person "A"....i found out that A grew up in a family where A wasnt given much attention....probably the parents were to busy to tend A's needs that A had to think and take care of A's self....A grew up like that....that explains why A always looks self centered....A didnt have anyone else to think of A's needs and feelings....A had to do it all alone....as for the attention part....duh!! isnt it obvious....A grew up with no attention given to A....for sure A would want all the attention available....the poor thing is thirsty for attention....after knowing this....i dont think they way i used to anymore about A....i feel that A needs to be given love and attention and care....and slowly, but surely....with time, A will change for the better....

so many people....with so many different characters....what we are today was constructed years back even since we were toddlers....so many aspects make us who we are today....some of us are lucky enough to go through this life with nearly nothing to worry about....good parents, good friends, good education, good bringing up....but then again, not everyone can be that lucky....its the mental toture that make a bad behaviour....all scars from the past that cant seem to fade....some makes us a better person....and some makes some of us hide inside a cocoon to sheild ourselves from the world....fearing that the same might happen again....some people are not bad....they are just misunderstood....because of the nature of the cocoon they hide in and also they reason it was built....and it is only we who can help them breakfree....but sadly, we always push them deeper inside by our blind judgements....

who are we to judge after all?? we are not God....and we are not perfect either....maybe we should all take a good and honest look at ourselves and the kind of people we are....before we go around making assumptions and conclusions and judgements about the way others are and how they could be....for the first step to making the world a better, place starts by making oursleves a better person....